Listen to Her Clues
You’ve finally met the right person and you’re ready to take the next big step by building a life together. Congratulations! This is a truly exciting time in both of your lives. While you’ve probably considered how and when you’ll pop the question to your significant other, you might be unsure about how you’ll find a diamond ring that will delight her now and for years to come.
This is where we come in. At Kwiat, we have over 100 years of experience in the diamond industry. We’ve guided hundreds of couples through this process and we know exactly how to help you discover what type of ring your partner wants—without spoiling the surprise of a proposal.
Listening is the most important thing you can do. Though you understand her well by now and probably know quite a bit about her style and tastes, there are still more opportunities to get better acquainted with her preferences. If you listen carefully, you’ll realize that your significant other is dropping clues for you about which type of ring she prefers, whether she realizes it or not.
Here are a few scenarios in which you can read between the lines to understand her preferences in diamond engagement rings—and then, once you’re armed with this information, how to further the conversation.
A Friend’s Recent Engagement
Pay attention to what your partner says when her friends announce their engagements. You can ask her directly for her opinion about a friend’s ring, or she might volunteer this information spontaneously. She may reference the shape of the diamond or the setting style of her friend’s engagement ring. She could consider her friend’s diamond to be too big, too small, or just right. She may say that her friend’s ring is lovely, but that it wouldn’t be her choice. This presents you with the perfect opportunity to ask her which diamond shape and ring setting she would choose for herself instead.
A Relative’s Ring
Perhaps she’s fond of the engagement ring that her sister, her mother, or another family member wears. Be attuned to her comments if she mentions to her relative how much she loves the stone shape, size, or setting of their ring while you’re within earshot. This is an important hint that you can and should use to determine what type of engagement ring she likes. You may also want to speak with her relative privately at a later date to confirm any details that you overheard.
Before becoming engaged, many couples find themselves casually looking at diamond rings together in jewelry store windows. Take notice of how your significant other reacts to the various rings on display. Maybe there will be a particular ring that catches her eye, or she might mention a preference for a specific diamond shape. Any details gleaned from window shopping together will be important to note so that you can reference them later during the purchasing process.
A Store Visit Together
Couples often browse together at the beginning of the engagement ring search. While less subtle, this is the easiest way to determine which rings captivate your partner and which details are most important to her. Shopping together at a reputable fine jewelry store allows you to have a more open discussion about her preferences as well. During your visit, she’ll likely have her finger size measured by the jeweler, too. This is an extremely important piece of information that you’ll want to remember. After your trip to the jewelry store, she can leave the rest of the process to you. That way, her ring will still be a happy surprise when you propose.
Since this purchase will be a substantial investment in your future together, it’s best to know your partner’s ring preferences before you get too far along in the process. While your bride-to-be will certainly be overjoyed about your proposal in the moment, she might admit later on or even in the following years that the ring you picked was not her first choice. To avoid this misstep, it’s crucial that you listen carefully to her and make note of any details she mentions.